Finding a book ..... town meetings galore .....Spring Fling and more

This Week in Lincolnville: Friggin’ Old Man

....remembering their dad
Posted:  Monday, May 15, 2017 - 3:15pm

“So I borrowed the truck yesterday and of course the old man's presence was still very much there. All of the peeling lefty bumper stickers, the veteran's plate, the cab cluttered with crap – returnables, rope, grass clippings and of course his pipes and loose tobacco strewn about. Still smells like that pipe in there. And on the floor I found this book. I assume the old man found it while cleaning the Beach and thought it would make a nice gift, perhaps a stocking stuffer for Johnson. Hanji and I pawed through it and laughed hysterically (and cried a bit). Unfortunately, we weren't able to get past page 30, because (and I kid you not) the pages were all stuck together. Friggin’ old man.”

I’ve been outnumbered in this family since the day our first son was born; he was followed by sons two and three. I can only imagine what raising three girls would have been like, but probably nothing like boys. I doubt that the brothers always include me in their back and forth emails, but the above message, which arrived in my mailbox on Mother’s Day, was my gift. The book (yes, I’d noticed it there on the floor) is one of those little things like 101 Things to do with a Dead Cat. You might flip through it in a shop, then put it back and forget it. Or, if like some of our relatives, think “this would be perfect for Uncle Harry” and actually buy it.

 It was surely one he found on a bench at the Beach last summer, or in one of the trash barrels he emptied every morning. And he did tell me he was saving it for his nephew, who appreciated such things. The cover of the book on the floor of our truck (included in the email, but which I wont’ share on the Pilot) has the photo of a phallic-looking cloud, and the brilliant title: It Looks Like a C***! Naturally, I’d glanced through a few pages, saw it was more of the same and tossed it back on the floor, intending to throw it out. But son number three found it instead.


MONDAY, May 15

Cooking Healthy Meals, 5 p.m., Community Building

Recreation Committee meets,

6 p.m., Town Office


Library Book Group, 6 p.m., LCL

Special Town Meeting-LCS Budget, 6 p.m., LCS


Library Presentation and Concert, 7 p.m., LCL


Soup Café, noon-1p.m., Community Building, 18 Searsmont Road

LIA meets, 5:30 potluck-6:30 program, LIA Building, 33 Beach Road


L’ville Center Indoor Flea Market, 7:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m., Community Building


Spring Fling Bean Supper and Variety Show, 4-5 p.m., Tranquility Grange

SUNDAY, May 21

Stories of the Land and Its People, 1-5 p.m., Strand Theatre and Farnsworth, Rockland

Mount View Chamber Singers, 4 p.m., United Christian Church

Every week:

AA meetings, Tuesdays & Fridays at 12:15 p.m., Wednesdays & Sundays at 6 p.m., United Christian Church

Lincolnville Community Library, open Tuesdays, 4-7, Wednesdays, 2-7, Fridays and Saturdays, 9 a.m.-noon. For information call 763-4343.

Soup Café, every Thursday, noon—1p.m., Community Building, Sponsored by United Christian Church. Free, though donations to the Community Building are appreciated

Schoolhouse Museum is closed for the season; call Connie Parker for a special appointment, 789-5984.

Bayshore Baptist Church, Sunday School for all ages, 9:30 a.m., Worship Service at 11 a.m.; Good News Club, Tuesdays, LCS, 3-4:30

Crossroads Community Church, 11 a.m. Worship

United Christian Church, Worship Service 9:30 a.m., Children’s Church during service


 May 23: CSD Budget Meeting

June 3: Pickling Class

June 13: Annual Town Meeting

June 15: Eighth Grade Graduation

June 17: Last Day of School and Field Day


 And I’m reminded all over again that I’m not the only one mourning that man; he was “their old man” as much as mine. Finding that silly book amongst the junk on the floor of his truck fit right in with the way they saw their dad. A bit raunchy, more than a bit rebellious, he never judged them, rarely lectured (although there was one iconic moment when one of them nearly failed algebra and was promised that unless he brought the grade up “all the good things in life will be over for you, Mistah”). He was a great dad to boys, happy to see them develop on their own into whomever they were meant to be.  We rarely disagreed about my way as a mom or his way as a dad. I was profoundly grateful, every day of our lives, for the father he was to them.

When Wally died I wasn’t surprised. I knew it was coming, had been preparing for it all our lives together. Maybe it’s just the way I do things, anticipating the worst, then figuring our how I’ll survive. Not much in the way of magical thinking going on. Dead is gone.

But your parents? They’re such a foundation to your life that imagining them gone is a bit like imagining them having sex: the offspring’s mind just doesn’t go there. Watching the reactions of our sons and of our daughters-in-law that night, I saw shock, as if “this can’t be happening.”

Preparing and anticipating has done me no good, by the way. Absence can’t be imagined. Neither can finality. But that’s probably just as well.

Town News

Tuesday May 16, Special Town Meeting, 6 p.m. in Walsh Common, to vote on the 2017-2018 LCS school budget. According to state law the school budget is considered separately from the regular town budget which is voted on in June. The total budget, which you can see at the above link to the warrant, is for $3,382,859.60; both the School Committee and the Budget Committee recommend this amount.

Tuesday, May 23 the Five Town CSD Annual Budget Meeting will be held at 7 p.m. at Camden Hills Regional High School. For those who may be new to town, Lincolnville is part of the Five Town CSD (Community School District), the entity which runs CHRHS where our students go.

Finally, here is the Warrant for Lincolnville’s Annual Town Meeting, which will be voted on in two parts – Articles 1-5 at the polls on Tuesday, June 13 at LCS, and the remaining articles in the open meeting on Thursday June 15, 6 p.m. at the Community Building. Note that the articles to be voted on by secret ballot at the polls include the town officers as well as proposed Harbor Ordinance amendments and establishment of a Wastewater Capital Reserve Account.

Further information on these meetings and the harbor ordinance can be found on the town’s website.

LCS News

The date for the grade 6-8 Spring Concert has been changed to Friday, May 26, 6:30 p.m. in Walsh Common.

Partners for Enrichment brought their popular Author’s Day to LCS a week ago with Jean Flahive and Judy Thyng reading Jean’s book The Galloping Horses of Willowbrook  to grades K-2. Grades 3-5 were visited by Romni Arno, author of “middle-grade and young adult novels that illustrate the tough decisions preteens sometimes have to make.” Romni, who lives in Lincolnville, talked about Ruby Reinvented  which takes place in Camden. The middle school students heard from T.H. (Trevor Howard) Paul, author of The Legacy Chronicle – The Sword. T.H. actually started the book while in high school and only recently published it. He’s a teacher at Hebron Academy.

Seventh graders have wrapped up their year working on “Stories of the Land and Its People”, the collaborative arts program that LCS participates in along with the Appleton, Camden-Rockport, Hope, Rockland, and Waldoboro schools. A presentation of the year’s work will held at the Strand Theatre in Rockland at 1 p.m. this Sunday, May 21, followed by the opening of the exhibit of their projects at the Farnsworth, right across from the Strand, from 2-5 p.m. 

Eighth graders will be enjoying their class trip to Quebec City June 1-3. They graduate on June 15.

The last day of school will be Saturday, June 17, which will also be Field Day. School will start at the usual time with dismissal at 11:30 a.m. after a picnic lunch for kids and Field Day volunteers.

Cooking for Health

Here’s a free class, sponsored by Waldo County and PenBay Hospitals, that shows how to cook quick, kid-friendly meals that are both delicious and healthy, even engaging children in the cooking process. Children 5 years and older are welcome to join the class. This is a series of two: Monday, May 15 and 22, 5-7 p.m. at the Community Building. Register by calling 921-3950.

Library News

Sheila Polson writes: “Everyone is invited to join the Book Group this Tuesday, May 16 at 6 p.m. for a discussion of My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante. According to Goodreads, the book is a ‘meticulous portrait of two women that is also the story of a nation and a touching meditation on the nature of friendship.’ Some people say they love this book and the Italian author’s entire Neapolitan Novel series; others aren't so enthusiastic. The book group would love to hear what people who have read it think.

The Library’s annual Memorial Day plant and book sale will be Monday, May 29, from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. It will include a wonderful variety of vegetable and flower seedlings plus perennial plants, many of them raised locally. There will also be a large selection of popular novels, historical fiction, gardening and cookbooks, children’s favorites, and more, as well as a 50–50 raffle. 

 “Donations for the sale of perennial plants and flower and vegetable seedlings, all potted and labeled, are welcome and may be dropped off at the library beginning May 20. The library also welcomes donations of books in excellent condition. All proceeds from the sale will go to help keep the library and its many services and programs thriving.”

Geraniums to Preorder

Once again the Library will be taking preorders for geraniums, raised at Evergreen Valley Farm in Searsmont. The plants come in 4” pots: specify red, white or fuchsia. They’re $5 each, and must be ordered by May 20. Pay for them when you pick them up at the May 29 Library plant sale, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Order by email or stop in at the Library and fill out an order form.

Final Library Presentation and Concert of the Season

Don’t miss Lincolnville’s newest novelist, Marge Olson, talking about her recently published book, Kindred Journeys this Wednesday, May 17, 7 p.m. at the Library. I just finished reading it, and found it one of those books you can’t put down, with believable and vivid characters in a plot with a surprise ending. On a rainy afternoon I lay on the couch and read through to the end.

The music half of the evening will bring Heart ‘n’ Soul, a quartet of women who are all members of Maine-ly Harmony, a women’s barbershop chorus. It sounds like a great night at the Library; thanks so much to Rosey Gerry who brings us these eclectic programs every month throughout the fall, winter and spring. Each one is fascinating in its way; I’m always glad to have gone.  Reserve seats, at $10 each benefiting the Library, by calling Rosey, 975-5432

Lincolnville Center Indoor Flea Market

The Flea Market’s fifth season starts this Saturday, May 20 at the Community Building, 18 Searsmont Road. Doors open at 7:30 a.m., and you’ll find hot coffee, breakfast casserole and other goodies, and the Market ends at 12:30 p.m. As always there will be a wide variety of merchandise for sale including antiques and collectibles, household items, and crafts including Kenyan fabric art and rustic chain saw folk art by Edward Edmands. The Flea Market is held the third Saturday of every month now through October; table rental fees benefit the Community Building Fund. Contact Mary Schulien, 785-3521, for information on renting a table. United Christian Church, owner of the Community Building, sponsors the Market.

Spring Fling at Tranquility

Tranquility Grange’s opening event, their Spring Fling, will be held this Saturday, May 20. The Lincolnville Band will begin playing around 4 p.m., as diners begin lining up for the 5 p.m. Bean, Casserole and Homemade Pie Supper. At 6, after the dishes are cleared away, settle in for a real Lincolnville Variety Show as local talent of all stripes will perform on the Grange’s old stage. Tickets sold at the door are $10 for adults, $5 for those 5-12 and the under 4s and over 90s get in free. Questions? Call Don at 763-3254.

 And by the way, both the Grange and United Christian Church (see below) are on the Historic Registry. Check out the interior of Tranquility, built in 1908, with its pressed tin ceiling and walls, old wainscoting and stage.

Mount View Chamber Singers in the Spring

The United Christian Church (UCC) invites the public to a rare springtime performance by the Mount View High School Chamber Singers on Sunday, May 21, 4:00 p.m. at the church at 18 Searsmont Road.  We’ve only heard them performing "Carols in the Round" at Christmastime, but this year icy roads kept them away in December.  This special concert has been scheduled to make up for that. The program will feature music from 11th century Latin text music to more recent creations.

 The Mount View High School Chamber Singers, under their long-serving director, David Stevenson, is one of the top choral groups in New England. They’ve been performing at UCC for over 20 years, though always at Christmas. If you’ve never been inside the old Meeting House in the Center that is the home of the UCC, here’s a chance to see it. Built in 1821 the church has its original box pews, complete with little wooden turn buttons, balcony and swirly old glass windows.

 All are welcome to this special concert and the reception which will follow. There is no admission fee but donations are welcome and will benefit the Chamber Singers who will also have CDs for sale. Doors will open at 3:30 p.m.  For further information call Mary Schulien, UCC music director, at 785-3521.


Lincolnville’s oldest resident, Marvin “Red” Garner, passed away last week at the age of 101.

And sympathy to the family and friends of Sandy Nisbet, who also died last week.